Thursday, November 29, 2007

Anonymous said...

I had a lucid dream where somebody was trying to stab me in the back multiple times while I was sleeping, he thought that he was but what he was stabbing was the covers on my bed next to me. I was trying no to move so he wouldn't hurt me... he went away thinking he had hurted me, but he didn't. It felt so real.. Why did I felt that? Does that have any meaning or message for me?

Answer from God through Brian:

"While you were sleeping, you were being attacked by demons and the reason you were not hurt is because I sent my angels to protect you. I have given you this dream to act as a sign for you begin to meditate. If you connect with me and clear your energy you will see that many of the obstacles you come up against in the near future will be much easier to overcome."

Wednesday, November 28, 2007

Anonymous said...

Ever since my Dad died 11 years ago, my Mom has been so sad. Now that I have moved away from home, she is even more sad. Will she ever find happiness again? How can I help her?

Answer from God through Brian:

"Your mother has some darkness in her head which is typically a form depression. I am removing this negative energy and replacing it with pure white light. This is only a temporary fix because she will have to use her free will to chose to clear herself. You can help her when you sense she is getting sad again by closing your eyes and imagining the outline of your mother's body. Once you are able to see this, I would like you to imagine a pure white light streaming from the palms of your hands. Direct this light towards your mother and fill her entire spiritual body. This will help keep her energy up and she will be happier."
Anonymous said...

Thank you God....on November 1, I wrote the following to you, and I made the decision to fly out to see my Grandad 2 days later - I am so glad I did, as 6 days from sending you this message he passed, hopefully peacefully and no longer in pain.

I miss him so bad, and wish to know is he around us and me, and how often is around, I want to have a sign from him, how can I get that?

Thank you.

>>Thursday, November 1, 2007
Deborah said...

Please God, take my Grandad....he's in so much pain, it's unbearable to hear about it and being so far away from him. My Mum is watching him and we know he is in the final stages, but we can't bear the agony - it's not fair for him, he wants to go....take him please......

Answer from God through Brian:

"He will be free of pain soon. Do not be afraid, I will take care of him."

Answer from God through Brian:

"Your Grandfather has been visiting with your family quite often to let you all know he is free of pain and much happier where he is now. He is also watching over your family to give protection and guidance whenever it is needed. If you find yourself missing his company all you have to do is ask for him to come to you. This could be in a meditation, a prayer, or a dream and no matter where he comes to you, he will bring a message."
Anonymous said...

Did I do the right thing by breaking up with my girlfriend? I feel really down. It seems like every decision I make in life is the wrong one.

Answer from God through Brian:

"Do not let this situation discourage you. Your energy was not melding very well with your girlfriend's and it was time for a change. When you are ready for your next relationship let me know and I will send her along to you."

Sunday, November 25, 2007

Anonymous said...

What happens to the souls of those who have taken their own lives?

Answer from God through Brian:

"When someone uses their free will to take their own life they are put in limbo, where they are stuck in the very moment of their death. You are able to get these souls to heaven by spiritually connecting with them and asking your angels to show them the light or by many prayers seeking help for the dead."

Wednesday, November 21, 2007

Anonymous said...

My fiance broke our engagement. I have been told he is God's will for me. Do I move on and just heal?

Answer from God through Brian:

"It will take time, however you will move on and you will be happy, healthy, and I will send your true soul-mate when you are ready. Continue to communicate with me and please let me know when you feel you are prepared for your next relationship."
Anonymous said...

I want to know if my dad Sam that passed when I was very little is watching over me and my kids and if he is proud of me?

Answer from God through Brian:

"Your father is in a much better place now. He is with you quite often and he is always there for you, to give guidance or support whenever you need it. In the same way you might pray, you can communicate with him and ask any questions you have."

Tuesday, November 20, 2007

Anonymous said...

I sense I have spiritual guides. Who are they? What are their names? How can I communicate with them?

Answer from God through Brian:

"I have given you two angels who are always with you. They are there to give you guidance and to help protect you from negativity. You can call them Angels and they will respond to you when you are in a meditative state or if you are praying and you ask for help. Your angels are waiting to help you, all you have to do is ask for their guidance."

Sunday, November 18, 2007

Anonymous said...

I have been following Your directions to those posts on negativity and depression. When I'm in a negative state being instructed to 'meditate' doesn't mean anything to me. Is there something You want me to visualize to assist in breaking thru the blackness? Like your visualization for global healing.. You were specific..ball of pink light.. is there something YOU desire me to focus on for healing of negativity/depression? (examples.. a green lightning bolt, stepping into an opal pool of water.. etc. etc..) ANY help would be appreciated moving closer to YOU.
I ask in gratitude and love...

Answer from God through Brian:

"If ever you feel there is darkness around you or in your spiritual body I would like you to practice this meditation. Find a quiet place where you can relax and close your eyes. Once you have found this place, I would like you to visualize the outline of your physical body and a beam of light stemming from heaven to the top of your head. This is called your God Chord and it is your direct connection to heaven. Visualize that this cord is filling with bright white light and allow this energy to flow all the way down your God Chord, through your spiritual body and into the Earth. Try to imagine any and all of the darkness, that was attached to you, burn away as the white light passes through. Then to make sure that you are protected throughout your day, imagine that a pure gold light is wrapping all the way around your God Chord and your spiritual body. Gold light is a very strong energy and will make you less vulnerable to darkness. Practice this meditation every morning to ensure you have a clear and peaceful day ahead of you."

Friday, November 16, 2007

Anonymous said...

I had a vivid dream where I was driving along a road and a very physicaly injured and traumatized white dog jumped into my car and climbed into my lap - it knew I would help it. the dog's injuries where overwhelming and my first reaction was 'what can I possible do?' - and I awoke.. I have not yet understood the meaning of this dream... Are You trying to communicate something to me thru it?

Answer from God through Brian:

"There was no specific meaning to this dream however it was intended to make you re-connect with me. I would like you to meditate and try to work with energy for self-healing purposes. Thank you for asking for guidance."
Anonymous said...

I want to stop taking my anti-depressants.. Sometimes I feel stable enough that I can overcome the darkness with what You are teaching me and sometimes I do not believe I know enough to prevent and or heal my spiritual body if it does. The darkness was so overwhelming. Is this the right time for me to stop? Describe in detail, like you have taught your servants Brian and David, how to combat the depression/negativity with Your spiritual tools...

Answer from God through Brian:

"For you to keep the negativity at bay you have to make the decision that you are not going to allow the darkness to affect you any longer. Go into a meditation and make your intention to be filled with positive energy and to keep all darkness away. It is very important for you to continue to meditate and to keep your spiritual body filled with high vibration energy. You will be safe."
Anonymous said...

Is there anything we can do about the earths global climate changes spiritually? If so... What????
Is there a specific meditation You want us to envision? Teach us!

Answer from God through Brian:

"Thank you for asking a question from a global perspective. To begin healing the planet I would like for you to practice this meditation. Find a quite and peaceful space where you can close your eyes and clear your mind. In this space I would like you to think of the one person, or the group of people that you love the most on this planet. Imagine this person and try to harness all of the love energy that you feel towards them into a ball of pink light in your spiritual hands. Allow this ball of energy to expand and grow in your hands and once you feel you have a strong connection with the energy and the Earth, imagine you are pushing this ball of love energy down into the core of the planet. As you are watching the energy reach the core, imagine that it is boiling and engulfs the entire Earth. Try to feel the love energy surround you and know that you are helping to heal the planet."
Anonymous said...

Question about my boyfriend.. I desire a monogomous long term relationship with him..(even marriage) he keeps me at arms length and is currently active on a singles website (this is where we met). when we met AND when we are together I sense a deep spiritual connection.. like we are soulmates.. he tells me he thinks about me alot and wants me in his life... but his actions don't match up.. I waiver between thinking he is just a 'player' or to just give this time. My ex-husband was very unfaithful to me and I have a hard time discerning men with good intentions vs players... Is he a player or should I just keep an open mind and open heart and wait?

Answer from God through Brian:

"The two of you are soul-mates however right now you are not spiritual equals. You are quite a bit farther on your spiritual path and for your relationship to work he will need to catch up. I have given every single person on the planet at least one perfect soul-mate. This soul-mate is a person with energy that matches up with your own to create a harmonious high vibration energy. If you do not feel that your current relationship is working, all you have to do is ask for your next perfect match."

Thursday, November 15, 2007

Anonymous said...

I am struggling each day in a career that I hate, but it pays the bills and I have a family of 4 to support. The work is actually starting to manifest itself in causing me illness. However, with the obligation I have to my family, I cannot see any way for me to pursue other work where my spirit and heart reside. I just know that my spiritual path is in holistic healing and teaching as that is where I feel on top of the world. Is there anything in my near future that can transition my career?

Answer from God through Brian:

"If this is where you would like to be, you have the power to make it happen. You have the ability and the strength to create a career out of your personal gifts and talents and all you have to do is take a step out. I will be with you through out this transition and if you need guidance please ask."

Wednesday, November 14, 2007

Anonymous said...

What job will I get and when?
Will it be the perfect job for me?
What do I need to do to get this perfect job?

With Loving Gratitude...


Answer from God through Brian:

"I have not shown you your perfect job yet. To prepare yourself for this job I would like you to focus on clearing your energy and maintaining a high energy vibration so that when you come into this perfect job you will spread even more positive energy. Once you have done this you will be ready."
Anonymous said...

When helping someone, do I help following their rules or mine?


Answer from God through Brian:

"When you are helping someone it is important that you do so without having any preconceived agenda. Although this person may not like what you are saying, it is important that you only speak of truth and continue to spread love and light. If ever you need help finding the right words to say or with how to best help someone, please ask for guidance."

Tuesday, November 13, 2007

Anonymous said...

Most people don't ever mediated or ask Your help and do just fine in life, I meditate and ask for Your protection every day, but I get attacked by demons just about every day, sometimes so bad I feel like they are going to kill me. Why is that? Can you help me, please?


Answer from God through Brian:

"As people connect with the spiritual realm, their individual energy is amplified and their light becomes brighter. Demons and darkness attack the brightest lights because these people have the greatest ability to spread love and light. I am placing you in a bubble of white and gold light to protect you and all you have to do is to continue to meditate. Add light to this bubble as you see it's needed and you will be protected."
Anonymous said...

Its been awhile since i actually sat in the dark and prayed to you like i used to. I asked you to give me a sign about my current career path. Well today i honestly dont know if this was the sign but i had the most hair raising incident at work. On the way to the incident i was almost having a panic attack, however once i got there we handled everything ok and everyone went home safe. Im still having a hard time interpreting if i should continue on my current career path?

Answer from God through Brian:

"You are in the middle of a career shift. You will continue to work in the same line of business but it will be in a new location that will better suit your energy and the way you work. In this transision you may feel uneasy with what the next step to take will be, however if you remain connected I will give you the guidance you need. Continue to pray when you need help. You are being heard."
Anonymous said...

Why do I feel so out of place everywhere I am?
Why do I have such a hard time connecting to others?
Is my Dad out there somewhere?
How can I/Is it possible to repair the relationship with my Mom?
How can I help my brother?

Answer from God through Brian:

"To help you feel more connected in you current location, I would like for you to take a step out and make the choice to find new people to surround yourself with. You have a habit of finding people who use you and do not add to your energy. I would like you to break this habit. I would also like you to meditate and allow my energy to remove any and all negative energy from you spiritual being. This negativity is causing you to feel disconnected and keeps you from moving forward on you spiritual path. If you are looking for a way to help others, start by clearing your own energy and then you can begin to clear others as well. It is very important for you to center and remain grounded for you to see any true results."

Monday, November 12, 2007

Anonymous said...

I still find myself drawn to drinking even tho You are healing my past of childhood abuse. I drank as a teenager to escape and numb the hatred I lived in but I desire now to live in Presence and connect with You and develop my gifts You've given me. What is the root cause of it? Please heal me of this completely...


Answer from God through Brian:

"There are connections from your past that still hold negative energy. These connections are holding you back and keeping you from progressing on your path. I am clearing them now and this will help keep the negativity from effecting you as severely however you have to make the decision that you will not allow the negative energy to take control again. Meditate and focus cleansing energy on your spiritual body. If ever you need help or guidance, please ask."
Anonymous said...

Do you celebrate Christmas in Heaven and if so what do you do?.

Answer from God through Brian:

"Christmas is a very large celebration in heaven. However there are no decorated trees, we do have music, dancing, and most of all we come together as a whole community and remember why Jesus was put on Earth in the first place."

Sunday, November 11, 2007

Anonymous said...

Dear God,
You know the struggles and hardships that I have endured and I thank you for bringing through them all. LORD in this place that I am now, I'm having a hard time knowing if I am making the right decisions in the choices that I have. My desire and goal is to be seen in your eyes as righteous and I have been trying to use my gifts towards that goal, but I find myself feeling empty and lonely. Now that my ex-wife is back in my life, I don't know if you have brought her back into my life for me to remarry or to test my strength. Regardless of the answer, I will follow your will, and submit unto YOU. May your will be done in my life. Do with me as you see best. Your servant. In Jesus Christ name I pray and believe..

Amen and Amen

Answer from God through Brian:

"Your ex-wife being back in your life is neither a test nor a sign of re-marriage. Your current feelings of loneliness will soon fade and for now I would like you to stay centered and wait for you next life-changing opportunity. I am working with your spiritual body right now and it is important for you to remain on your path for these changes to take full effect."

Saturday, November 10, 2007

Anonymous said...

I am an extremely spiritual person on a path that I believe is my Divine Path of healing the body and spirit. My journey led me to leave my nice little comfy home in Charlotte and move to New Orleans right before "the" storm. As I was meant to be here to help others through this devastation and still do.

This is what leads me to my dilemma. Many are led to me and I believe all is for a reason, be it for healing, teaching or both. My heart is filled with love and light with the thought that there is always good in everything somewhere. You may have to look hard sometimes, but it is there. To continue with my question, I was brought a woman who was asking for help as she was desperately seeking answers in her spiritual quest. After much discussion, she was very open with me about her vicious past. She was severely abused as a child and at 15 she was on her own turning to whatever way she could to survive. Her path took her to drugs and alcohol then to a strip club on Bourbon St to earn a living. During these years, she had 2 children who she did not know who the daddy was. She did not have the life skills to deal with this and kept up her same lifestyle partying all night long. One night she let a stranger come home with her. Now her story is that she has no recollection and her 12 year old son was murdered that night. She didn't do it, she was a victim. However, the case was a very public one and the evidence all pointed directly at her that she stabbed and crushed her son to death after he had a nightmare waking up at 3 am disturbing her party. Her daughter and the stranger both testified against her, they found that her shoes matched the imprints on the boys lifeless body. She was found guilty of manslaughter of her son and lost all rights to her daughter, serving 15 years in prison doing hard time.

She is now out on parole, is holding down a job and wanting my help. As one filled with love, I do not want to be another in the chain turning my back on her, but do not want to put myself in any danger either as the work that I do would have to take place in her apartment. My usual spiritual guidance seems to have turned off and I cannot get an answer as to whether I should or should not go help this woman. I have mixed emotions as I want to help her, but I am also in fear with the stigma of her being a convicted murderer of a child. Should I trust her and put my faith ahead of my fears and help this woman?

Answer from God through Brian:

"There is only so much growth a person can do in a single area of their life. You do have the ability and strength to help this woman, however I want you to be safe and happy while giving her guidance. For you to be both safe and healthy you need to find a way to help her in a space you feel at home. You are doing the right thing and you are centered on your path. If ever you feel you need strength or guidance, please ask."
Anonymous said...

My journey with You is deepening and You know that one of my deepest desires is to remarry. Michael has come back into my life and I am thrilled BUT so unsure if he is 'the one'... GIVE me a sign soon either way.

Answer from God through Brian:

"You are both growing spiritually and emotionally at the same rate. This spiritual growth is going to cause the relationship to seem as though it is up in the air however if you are able to stay on your path and keep an open mind and an open heart, the two of you will make it through together."

Friday, November 9, 2007

Anonymous said...

Dear God,

I just had one of my worst weeks at my daytime job. I’ve been making so many mistakes that my boss is becoming very disappointed with me. I’ve been there for almost 18 months now and I love what I do. However; if I continue to make mistakes, I might soon be out of a job. I have one week to start turning things around or I will be out of a job. Will things start to get better or worst in the days ahead? Why is this happening to me now? Or is this a sign from you that its time to move on? If not, what can I do to improve my current situation? Thanks.

Answer from God through Brian:

"There has been quite a bit of negative energy coming your way in the last couple of weeks and it has only just begun to take effect. You are meant to keep this job for the time being and to help you with that I will make sure your energy is clear. Thank you for asking for help."

Wednesday, November 7, 2007

Anonymous said...

Dear God,
I thought when we moved here to Portland my life would be great. We are good, loving, caring, hard working, giving people. We help many people have excellent health in the alt. health care industry and environmental causes. Yet we are struggling so badly. Financially we are 1 step away from "going under" this puts a major strain and constant fighting in my dear marriage. It feels like everyone around us is prospering so easily. I pray, do energy work, am grateful, eat well,see things positively, give, love and serve. I have read every book, done every seminar, etc. I am worried that we will will loose everything. I don't want to loose my house and leave our neighborhood and school that the kids love dearly--it's their rock right now. I concerned about my marriage. I don't understand why we struggle so much--especially financially and it seems that we are so far in a hole that we might not make it out. We help others all day, but we are barely making it and are getting really sick and tired....literally. My question is will we make it here in our house and what specific steps so I need to take to transform my life to experience the greatness and sweetness that you want us to have and how long until there's a difference?

Thank you and I am listening!!!

Answer from God through Brian:

"Your family will be happy and loving no matter where you are. Change is natural and I ask that you will be open to it. This financial struggle is causing a weakening in your marriage and due to that weakening darkness can find a way in. Meditate and keep an open connection with your angels and me and peace will be restored to you. Continue to ask for help when needed, as I am always here for you. Remember to stay centered and grounded and do not get entwined in the material aspects of your life."

Tuesday, November 6, 2007

Anonymous said...

Can you help me, show me a sign. I don't know who I want in my life. My past love or my new love. I am not able to make this decision on my own, as I know I will ultimately make the wrong one. Please, I want to go back to feeling good again, and this issue is preventing me from doing that. Please give me a HUGE sign. I thank you.

Answer from God through Brian:

"Relax. Do not over think past experiences and do not allow them to keep you from making decisions now. Let go and allow a new relationship to come into your life. When you feel you are ready for this relationship, please let me know, however as of right now you need to find a way to be happy by yourself."

Monday, November 5, 2007

Anonymous said...

Dear God,

Please, please have my boyfriend come back to me. Is my will we stay together as happy as we were in the past. Could you go back in time and fix all this mess when it all began? Do I have to do something myself or do I have to wait? Please have us to forgive each other and give us another chance. Please make him to take the first step. Please remove all the things that are keeping us apart. Thank you



Answer from God through Brian:

"It is necessary for you to have a dream or an idea of what you would like your future to look like so that I can use them to create your reality. However you cannot create reality for someone else. You were put in this relationship to learn about yourself and how to be in a healthy long-term relationship. Unfortunately you did not learn all of these lessons. I will give you another opportunity but your current relationship will not allow you to learn these lessons. It is time for you to let go and do not try to force anything. Allow me to work with you and you will not be alone."
Anonymous said...

Dear God,
There are new prophesies in the lost book of Nostradamus. Is that about spiritual awakening? What should we do?

Answer from God through Brian:

"When Nostradamus was writing I was giving him visions and insight to the potential future of man. It is crucial for major changes to occur for the continuance of healthy life on Earth. As for now, strive for connecting with the spiritual realm. Meditate and communicate with your angels and me."
Anonymous said...

Dear God, in the book of Genesis, chapter one, verse 29 you said, and I quote: "And God said, Behold, I have given you every herb bearing seed, which is upon the face of all the earth, and every tree, in the which is the fruit of a tree yielding seed; to you it shall be for meat."

Cannabis Sativa is WITHOUT DEBATE an "herb bearing seed upon the face of all the earth"... so my question is, why do people here on Earth disobey you and command others to abstain from something that you yourself declared on the very first page of your word, was made by YOU for all humans...? It would seem these people are now playing god by demanding prohibition of your creations.


Answer from God through Brian:

"I have created all things in the Universe and each has its own purpose. Cannabis is no different however mankind has misinterpreted its ideal use. It was intended to bring relief for those in serious pain and now as mankind has progressed it is necessary for it to be regulated. I have given each and every one of you free will and if you feel the need to exercise your free will and break a regulation set by man, that action will have consequences."
Anonymous said...

Can you please help me, i am a healthy 27 year old however i constantly think about death. I cannot stop thinking that one day i will die and it is starting to affect other areas of my lift. Can you give me some guidance so i can ease my fear of death and dying?

Answer from God through Brian:

"Do not dwell on the inevitable, but love living in the present. If you are seeking a way to quiet your mind from these thoughts of death all you have to do is meditate and ask for guidance."

Sunday, November 4, 2007

Anonymous said...

I have always been able to take care of myself and my son because I have had a somewhat successful career. A few years ago, though, everything seemed to come unglued and I lost my job among other things. I thought this was because I wasn't on the path to fulfilling my life's purpose.
I have struggled these past few years trying to make a living while also searching for my life's purpose. I have tried meditation, getting readings, energy work as well as reading books on spiritual concepts so as to understand. My financial resources are alarmingly low and I fear if something doesn't happen soon I will end up in a hole that will negatively affect me for a very long time. And my son will also be hurt by this. I love him too much to want this to happen.

So my question:
If this is all happening because I am not on the path to fulfill my life's purpose then what is my life's purpose and how do I get on track?

if this is all happening due to something else then what is that "something else" and how do I overcome it?

Thank you

Answer from God through Brian:

"The true cause of these issues is a lack of gratitude. Not only toward me but to all others around you. You needed this break to examine your life and take time to slow everything down and enjoy all the amazing things that are all around you. Continue to meditate and I will show you your next successful career opportunity. Do not be afraid at this time, you and your son will be safe."
Anonymous said...

There are spiritual teachings that teach that every soul is on a path to become one with you. That every soul returns to the planet with a specific purpose to learn something(s) that will progress them on that path to become one with you. Your answer about reincarnation makes it sound like some souls choose not to return which would mean that they do not progress. Isn't the plan to have all souls to progress all the way and become one with you?

Answer from God through Brian:

"In my answer regarding reincarnation, the intent was to show that reincarnation does not have set regulations. The individual soul chooses when they would like to come back to Earth."
Anonymous said...

Is there an Angel or spirit in the picture my daughter is in that was taken at her grandma's house?.If so what is thier name?.

Answer from God through Brian:

"There is one angel in this photograph. His name is Michael and he is a very strong protector who I sent to your family when you needed him most."
Anonymous said...

My husband is back on drugs.Will this be the cause of his death or will he stop for good?.



Answer from God through Brian:

"He has the ability to stop his addiction. Ultimately it will be his choice to stop and all he truly needs to do is ask for help."

Friday, November 2, 2007

Anonymous said...

Can someone explain to me what this "God" is or isn't that we are or are not believing in please?

What is God?

Answer from God through Brian:

"I am the creator of every last atom in the physical universe and of all things in the spiritual realm. I am here to help you in any way you need, all you have to do is ask for guidance."

Thursday, November 1, 2007

Anonymous said...

I know I'm probably abusing the rules....but in response to your reply to mine back on September 23...nothing has happened - does this mean I have no faith...I've been trying...but I not seen any specific sign in which direction to go....thank youx

Answer from God through David:

"Between your free will and trying to make things that happened in your life be the sign I was sending you, you changed the course work I had set for you. This does not mean that you lack faith, but that you were so desperately seeking a sign, your mind overlooked the sign I gave you. Do not worry. I don't give up on any of my children, and since you are continually seeking my guidance, I have been nudging you in some of your decisions. What you need to do now is to make two plans. Map out every detail of what you would do if you were to stay where you are, and another map of what you would do if you moved. Every detail imaginable must be completed in each detailed map. In doing this, you will have a safe option in both plans, and within one week of completing these maps to the point in which you can plan no more, you will know what option is right for you. Continue to have faith, but don't over-think. It is your over-thinking that could cause you to lose your faith. Just remember that I am here, right beside you, holding your hand through everything."
Deborah said...

Please God, take my Grandad....he's in so much pain, it's unbearable to hear about it and being so far away from him. My Mum is watching him and we know he is in the final stages, but we can't bear the agony - it's not fair for him, he wants to go....take him please......

Answer from God through Brian:

"He will be free of pain soon. Do not be afraid, I will take care of him."
Anonymous said...

I cheated on my g/f with my ex-g/f. I thought I wanted to be with my ex-g/f, but now I think I want to stay with my current g/f. However, I feel guilty for what I have done. What should I do?

Answer from God through Brian:

"Honesty is very important. For the feelings of guilt and indecision to go away, you need to confess to both of them and tell them what you have been doing. It will not be easy but I will help you find the words to say if you ask."