Monday, September 7, 2009

Anonymous said...

I am married to a man who cheated on me and since then we have never been the same. Afew months back after being really confused on what to do with my life and marriage I ran into an ex boyfriend who I haven't seen in 10 years but was supposed to marry. We started talking on the phone. After realizing that old strong feelings for my ex where resurfacing I ended the conversations. Everything came out into the open and my husband now has broken trust with me. The worst part in all of this is that I can't stop thinking about my ex and I still want to call him. I sometimes dream of how it would be if we were together. I still love my husband but I can't seem to get control of my mind and I can't help but feel that I still love my ex. I need help and guidance on what I should do????

Answer from God through Carley:

"I am sorry for your pain. The core of every relationship is trust. Once broken, it can be repaired, however like a mended broken bone appears healed on the outside, an x-ray shows the history, and changes in barometric pressure reminds the owner of its presence. Once trust is broken a relationship is forever changed.

Do you remember your prayers for help when you first learned of your husband cheating? Do you believe that running into your ex-boyfriend was a coincidence? Every prayer is answered.

What did you learn from that encounter? Did you understand your husband's actions better? Did you learn to make a distinction between physical cheating and mental cheating? Or do you understand that every temptation needn't be acted upon? Do you accept that your husband has broken trust with you? Why did you end the conversations with your ex-boyfriend when you realized that strong feelings were resurfacing?

What should you do? Search your heart. I will always be found there. I would like to ask you to weigh both the positive and the negative in your marriage and know what is acceptable to you within your relationship and what is unacceptable. You'll only find peace when you live up to your own standards. You are in complete control of your free will - as is your husband and every other being that you encounter."

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