Saturday, November 14, 2009

Niki said...

First of all, I love you very much.
I've been with him for a long time, and it is the most satisfying, fulfilling relationship I've ever had. But a few days ago, he revealed to me that he kissed someone else, once...on a foolish whim. He's apologized and I think I know he truly regrets it...but the thing that really irks me is he told me he would never have revealed it, if I wouldn't have asked about him and her. I love him so much, but I can't stop thinking about it. I'm so lost, and sad, and confused. I hate dishonesty. I hate feeling this way. I'm not a jealous person, but all of a sudden I'm worrying about what he's doing, and who he's doing it with while I'm at work. Deep down inside I know he's not that kind of person..but I can't help but think about it. What should I do?

Answer from God through Carley:

"i love you too.

So you came to remember that he's human. So are you. Were you really happier when you thought him to be better than human? Do you really expect that what you had that moment before you knew he kissed her would last forever? Do you know that since everything is evolving all the time, absolutely nothing can remain the same? Wanting anything to remain the same is your error. When you expect things to change you are not surprised by change when it comes.

You know him. You know the man he is. Get your head out of it and remember him with your heart. That's where you'll find me. That's where you really know him. Instead of allowing yourself to feel lost, sad and confused - try happy, blessed and filled with joy that he's chosen to be with you. Enjoy the moments and the choices because you can only control what you do and how you act. Act with love and in gratitude and remember that you do not own anyone or any thing and the people and animals in your life are there on loan for a specific period of time. Live your life in the moments and you will really live."

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